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Ambrose Kamya: The Love Child Of Teenagers Who Has Fought For His Silver Spoon

“For the better part of my life I struggled with the feeling of rejection and sense of belonging. What has kept me going is my zeal to work hard and prove to the world that I have so much to offer for a better world.” Ambrose begins by pointing this out.
Tell us about your childhood and upbringing
I was born in 1989 by teen parents in Kiyunga Village in Eastern Uganda. My father and mother were in Senior four and Senior two, aged 19 and 18 respectively. 
When their parents heard the news, they were required to leave school to fend for the new born. My parents lived together briefly, and soon after my father had to leave to look for greener pastures. At that point he was working as a trader while my mother was a Primary School Teaching Assistant. The village grapevine was my father had impregnated two other girls and he had more responsibilities. The new family unit did not last, and both my parents went their separate ways and later remarried.
For the better part of my life, I moved from …

Children Have Emotions Help Them Grieve

Recently, I have found myself engaging in conversations on children and grief. One thing that stands out is the fact that there are many people who assume children are not able to process complex emotions. As a result, children are shielded or sidelined when it comes to grief.
You need to appreciate that, children are emotional beings. I actually think they are masters of emotional manipulation which is evident through their wide range of emotions such as tantrums, unexplained crying, hilarious laughter, spontaneous frown which they can do even before they develop speech.
Children learn a lot through observation and imitation of their environment. In fact, one of the areas that they pick up on most is language and character formation. When it comes to grief, what they observe is likely to leave them with more questions than answers and they will develop their own coping mechanism.
What I have observed and even heard from several families is that they do not engage children in the gri…

'Grieving & Healing After Loss' Book Commentary by Allan Bukusi

I met Allan Bukusi last year and the first thing he did was purchase a copy of my book, 'Grieving and Healing After Loss'. Several days later, he sent me an email that moved me to tears because it spoke to my heart.
Today I wish to share with you the following words from Allan and I hope they will speak to you as well.
This book is about two people. Eddie and Manuela. Eddie shines like a star throughout the book. Manuela is mentioned in closing or it may be that Manuela is the new beginning.
The book is written with the passion of a wounded soul watching the passing of a vibrant and energetic spirit. A spirit that says life must go on.    The author relates the sad tale with clinical accuracy and warns us that we must all be ready to walk this path. Three years on she details what she will not let go. And prays that those who walk the path may find comfort and solace on the journey- and hope that healing will come. It is a sad story that has documented history from an observer wh…