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Vulnerability is all about being Human

Take off the mask. Put your guard down. Enough about hiding your insecurities. Today I want to talk about vulnerability. Yes! Vulnerability.
I have found that many of us look at vulnerability as a weakness and we all dread the thought of being open to people about those things we are not proud of doing or the things we are still doing that we never want people to find out about us. The type of vulnerability where we are sharing our needs, exposing ourselves, sharing the not enough-ness we sometimes feel, sharing our deepest fears and regrets. This is the case for those who undergo rehabilitation for alcoholism or drug and substance abuse. (Hello I am so and so and I’m an alcoholic.) Saying it out loud!
The kind of vulnerability where we are opening our hearts and exposing the real and sensitive us.
Being open and sensitive to people about who we are has become an act of defiant resistance, and we will go to all strengths, pretend and walk around with smiley faces that show that all is we…

It Is Time We Practised More Self-Compassion than Compassion

“I want to be a Child Protection Champion for teenagers, Can I? Is it possible?
“Corazon that dream is way too big for you to achieve! “
“You are too weird and too ugly to fit in! You just do not qualify “
  “Your shape and form look like one of a lion. You cannot be beautiful in anything you dress in.”
“You deserved the rejection from that friend! You deserve all that is happening to you and more. That is what you get for setting your standards too high!”
‘They will laugh at your stupid ideas and opinions”
I have been a victim of such conversations countless times in the past when I was growing up.They also pop up once in a while in my adulthood and I feel uncertain about my capabilities. I am not the only one in this world.So many people think negatively about themselves. Many also talk themselves out of opportunities. We are fast at reprimanding ourselves more than we are at praising and uplifting ourselves for the things we accomplish in life. We think it is okay to go through f…

What Access to Justice Meant Growing Up as an African Child

Today we mark the International Day of the African child. A day marked to honour ten thousands of black school children who took part in the Soweto Uprising in 1976 to protest poor quality education and demanded to be taught in their own language. Hundreds were shot and hundreds killed in the protest. This day has been celebrated every year since 1991. (Wikipedia)
The theme of this year's celebration theme is, Access to Child-Friendly Justice System. This theme has made me think of access of justice which starts at home; with family being the first point where children learn about justice and access justice.
Justice is a concept that children have had little or no understanding about. In African culture, parents and the elderly in the community had the final say in matters justice.
When I talk of justice, I am going with these two definitions provided by Cambridge dictionary:
1. Fairness in the way people are dealt with 2. The system of law in a country that punishes and judges’…