Plant What You Want To Reap (Love Chronicles)

‘The only thing I want from my husband is his love. I don’t care about his money or even the fridge that is full of food in the house,’ wept a woman to her friends. I was seated with them on the same table at a restaurant. 

“Ken doesn’t care or even have time for me; he never notices me or even consults me in anything. Like the other day he just walked in with a brand new green carpet. Who buys a green carpet in a house that the walls are painted blue and the sofas are red which he also bought
yaaaani sometimes I feel so useless” ranted the woman. She felt so desperate and looked sad.

“Does he know how you feel and does he know that you love him?” one of the friends inquired. “Whaaaaat? (Her eyes popping out in shock) a man should love his wife, appreciate and care for her. Why should I love someone who doesn’t love me in the first place?” 

So, the woman expects her husband to love her without  expecting the same from her.We all want to be in very successful marriages, friendships, courtships and relationships.  But the question what are we sowing? All relationships’ are sort of an investment! It’s like you open a bank account and whatever you deposit in it is what you will get as your investment. Same applies to human relations. We have vague and fake relationships everywhere because we sow a lot of fakeness and pretense and expect fruitful fruits. 

Sowing will always produce. God established the law of sowing and reaping. Therefore, we should seek to sow good seed that we may harvest good fruit

What to Sow:

First of all, we are to sow God's love.  We may not have love to sow in the life of the other person.  Like the woman said, "A man is supposed to love and care for his wife."  That is O.K. to begin.  However, we must understand that God's love comes from God.  God will give us the seed to sow "And God is able to make all grace abound toward you; that ye, always having sufficiency in all things, may abound in every good work" (II Corinthians 9:8).  We just must be willing to sow God's love.

HOW TO SOW:

First we should sow WORDS. You should frequently if not always tell your spouse that you love them.  Our words should be of praise not flattery but true adoration to your spouse.  Use words to pray for your spouse. Are you praying for them at all? Once in a while surprise your spouse with a good love note or letter. Use words of counsel. Do not demand but advice wisely and allow the other person to make decisions on their own. Use words of encouragement “with God’s help you are going to get through’ ‘I’m here for you ‘and many others. 

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Second sow ACTIONS. There needs to be financial support. Husbands care for your wives financially. Finances are tied to security for wives. She in turn, is to be a helpmate financially. Proverbs 31 the virtuous woman was a business woman. She cared for her family but was also known in the market place. Sow seeds by physical affection. Tender touching is a very important act of showing affection.  Fix him his favorite meal and even share the same plate.

Third sow THE SEED OF TIME. A couple needs to plan for quality time together either with or without the children, nothing too big or expensive. The vital thing is that you spend time together. Plan activities, spend time in prayer together and also spend time sharing the truth about your feelings for each other.

Fourth sow the PROPER ATTITUDES. Husbands especially should be gentle with their wives. Treat her tenderly. Demonstrate courage. Women always mirror their husbands’ attitude back to them. Wife is supposed to be supportive to her husband when he makes wrong decisions. Support him and not the wrong decision. Both of you should have a forgiving attitude, peaceful attitude, patient attitude and loving attitude one towards the other. 

Fifth sow GIFTS OF BLESSINGS. When was the last the last time you gave your spouse a gift that he/ she did not ask for? Gifts are a great way to communicate LOVE to others. Even when your spouse is angry, sometimes a gift will help smooth things over. Be creative in terms of gifts. 

Spouses need to understand that it’s God that builds the home. We cannot do that which only God can do. He establishes security, love and peace.

People respond differently to various seeds planted in their lives. One may respond more positively to gifts of blessings while another may respond to more quality time together. Be patient so that the seeds you are sowing may germinate, sprout and grow and surely you will harvest in plenty

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