Vulnerability is all about being Human

Take off the mask. Put your guard down. Enough about hiding your insecurities. Today I want to talk about vulnerability. Yes! Vulnerability.

I have found that many of us look at vulnerability as a weakness and we all dread the thought of being open to people about those things we are not proud of doing or the things we are still doing that we never want people to find out about us. 

My Difficult Childhood Unknowingly Drove me into Depression; Lily Okeyo

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“It is okay not to be okay”. This is a statement taken so casually but carries so much weight. It is estimated that 300 million people worldwide suffer from depression which is the most common type of mental disorder.  

Kenya happens to be ranked 6^th in Africa in the number of depression cases at about 2 million.  It is also estimated that 4 in 5 people who commit suicide are depressed at the time of their death. 

The most common causes of depression are biological changes experienced during pregnancy, genetic predisposition, psychological risks and social factors. (WHO, Kenya Mental Health Policy/Act 2014)

When did Love Become a Battle Field?

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Before anything else, we need to begin with a moment of silence for the souls who have gone too soon in the name of love. 

The crimes of passion have become so rampant and the corridors of social media justice seem to be justifying the trend.

Looking at the tragic death of Ivy Wangechi, a Moi University sixth-year medicine student who was killed in broad daylight, I am left wondering; what value do we attach to life? Are rejection and disappointment such a strong incentive to take a life?

Every Woman Deserves a 'Sponsor'

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This might appear like the most irrational article I have ever written, but just hear me out for a moment. 

The number of ‘Sponsor relationships’ have been on the rise with scandal after scandal flooding our media. Focus has been put on condemning the vice but who has tried to analyse the situation and explain the trend?

Women depending on men is a normal phenomenon and nothing absurd at all. I mean, the man was created first and the woman was made to be his helper. 

Sex Conversation Parents Should Be Ready For

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Parenting comes with tasks and responsibilities. Parents telling each other anecdotes and seeking advice on the different stages and experiences they have had while their kids were teething, crawling, learning to walk and morning struggles on their first school day are very normal. 

 

In the African culture, parents seeking advice or sharing stories of how to talk or introduce sex conversation in the home is rare.  

Sex is not a very hot topic for family bonding time. Most children teach themselves, learn from their peers, or read about sex in magazines or on the internet. 

My Life, Their Demands!

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Today I want to throw a tantrum on behalf of myself and others who are tired of social demands and expectations constantly being thrown at their faces.

 

Every person’s life is a different script according to God’s purpose and will for our life. But  to most human beings we are all are expected to have the same script. Society expects you to go by its rules expectations and demands.  My plea to all of you out there is to Just let me fill out my script.  

Compare and contrast is one of the major causes of stress and depression in this modern world. Stress and depression are among the leading causes of suicidal deaths in Kenya and the world. 

My Thoughts, My Choices, My Happines.

"Thoughts are the shadows of our feelings, always darker, emptier, and simpler." Friedrich Nietzsche. 

A thought is an idea or opinion produced by thinking or occurring suddenly in the mind. Approximately 60,000 thoughts run through the mind in a day and 95% of those thoughts are the same as yesterday and the day before yesterday.

According to Wikipedia, Thinking is the mental process in which beings form psychological associations and models of the world. It is manipulating information when we form concepts, engage in problem-solving reason, and make a decision.

When A Child Is Forced To Become An Adult

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"You know you are the first born so you must behave very well because your younger siblings are looking up to you and emulating." This statement is true in most African families that the first child. 

Compared to other children, firstborns are raised being taught and shown how to be responsible, respectful and above all caring for others which are very good and vital for all children while growing up.

Safe Spaces Available at Decent Conversations

On 12^th August we celebrated International Youth Day (IYD) across the globe in different ways. This was a culmination of week-long activities geared towards having conversations on issues affecting the youth.  

Is it Love or Just a Camouflage?

Love is one thing that man has for ages struggled to understand and explain. The most simple definition is a strong positive emotion towards someone or something that goes beyond feelings.  

Everyone desires to be loved but mostly you end up in a camouflage of love.

Related Post: Love and Lust: Tearing Down the Relationship Veil

On 24th June 2018, I had an opportunity to be a panelist during Mombasa Youth Ablaze monthly session. The theme of the day was 'Love Dare' based on Songs of Solomon  8:4. 

Understanding Addiction And What It Is Like To Be Addicted

One can define addiction as, occupying oneself with or involving oneself in something habitually or compulsively. 

Addiction is a chronic disease of the brain. It comes in different forms. Addicts are moral agents, in the community, with biology working against their spiritual goals.

Decent Conversations Mental Health Workshop on Friday 11th May 2018

Sustainable Development goal number three aims to ensure; healthy lives and promote the well-being of all at all ages. SDG-3 also acknowledges the need for more efforts in addressing the different emerging health issues such is the case; mental health issues that are fast becoming a scourge. 

Closer home, Kenya has been ranked sixth with the highest number of depression cases among African countries by a World Health Organization report released in 2017.

Love in the Early 20s Vs Love in Late 20s

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I have an obsession with public benches especially those that are; remote, lonely and offer a picturesque view. One such bench I love is one Uhuru highway round about, on your way to Upper hill before; Processional way that crosses Uhuru Park and opens out to Serena hotel. 

Life is about Creating Yourself

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Identity is the fact of being who or what a person is. Self-Identity is the perception or recognition of one's characteristics as a particular individual. Self Identity is composed of relatively permanent self-assessments, such as personality attributes, knowledge of one’s skills and abilities, one’s occupation and hobbies, and awareness of one’s physical attributes.

Love Is Not A Formula

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If you read articles as often as I do, love can start to feel like a formula. You can read thousands of pieces of advice on how to attract the opposite sex, turn a friendship into a relationship, or even how to go on more dates in 2018. 

You don’t need to read more than “show him/her you’re interested, but not too interested” or “pose like this in a dating profile to get him/her to notice you” all these are just articles that make one think they can orchestrate their circumstances so that someone can fall in love with them.  

Condemnation Vs Compassion Embracing #MyParticulars

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Romans 8: 1 There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. 2 For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death.

This is a scripture that gives me great comfort even when I feel that I am so far away from God. 

But yet again, I find myself tempted to think that I am at least better than others and that my sin has a lesser magnitude. But I am reminded that there is no measure for sin and that 

Healthy Vs Unhealthy Relationships Forum (#MyParticulars)

This is the month of love and as you celebrate love, it is our desire that you begin with yourself. This Valentine, try to shake things up and look at yourself and how you appreciate who you are. Take the challenge, evaluate how much you value yourself, and determine your price tag.

Relationships are great if started on the right track. But, do you realize your self-awareness, self-esteem, self-worth, and self-acceptance greatly affect your relationships? Better still, your personality also contributes to the person you are attracted to and the one you attract.

Before giving away your heart and taking that of another, you need to begin with understanding SELF.

Meet Samantha, The New Wife Material Contestant

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My oh my! It is truly a challenge to be a woman. Feminists have had to deal with the issues of empowerment, equality, early marriages, female genital mutilation, and other female reproductive issues.

There is now a new area of concern which is SAMANTHA the latest talk of the town!

Also Check out: 7 Issues that Women Deal With at Different Points in Life

Life Doesn't Wait For Wedding Vows

I'm 31 years old, and I'd love to get married. I write that without embarrassment because marriage is a good and worthy desire. I have spent a good fortune of my formative years preparing for marriage, dedicating to myself it, and honoring it. 

As good and exciting as any relationship we get into can be, preparing for marriage was and became a small idol for me.

Is There a Right Time To Walk Away?

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Every relationship is unique in nature. There is no particular template to measure a successful relationship or a healthy one. 

Nothing is cast in stone and relationships are purely developed by individual effort.