Do Women Create the Monster In Men?

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Here is an article that will help ladies think critically about relationships. A well-compiled piece by Corazon Amukhale

“He just used and dumped me. I hate him” 

A lady was complaining to her girlfriends at the ferry. Her friends were comforting her telling her the man was a loser who did not deserve her love and loyalty. They branded the guy all sorts of ugly names. 

Standing near them I felt pity for the guy I never knew and wished I could be able to talk to him and get the other side of the story.

Women are pests and hypocrites. We use men and when a relationship ends we cry foul and claim that we have been used and dumped. For crying out loud a mature woman with a ‘smart’ brain has been used and dumped, really? That to me is nonsense.

It's not that I’m defending the men, No! They are no angels but give them a break sometimes. You can’t put all the blame entirely on the male species when a relationship ends.

At the beginning of any relationship, all parties normally have given their consent. We call each other sorry, darling, prince chubby, his majesty, and bae blablabla as a sign of love.

To the ladies after your Hunny passes and survives the window period which all ladies have or invent due to pressure from friends, they get comfortable and now elevate the man’s status to fiancée or hubby-to-be without confirming the same with the man.

After two to three dates you take over his house plus his entire life including his wallet. You start moving in with your panties since you can dress in his t-shirts and you are comfortable. Wow! The power of love I tell you. 

You employ yourself as the wife and start performing your duties. You take over this man’s life. You cook, wash and even dictate what he wears. You even go to an extent of introducing yourself to his friends and family. Talk of the dot com generation. The things we do our great grannies are laughing painfully at us.

Ladies all this you never do for free. Of course, the poor man is paying for it dearly. He has to keep and maintain his queen. Your head costs him a minimum of 5,000, legs and hands 2,000, and shoes 5000. In short, the dude spends almost fifty thousand on you minus the Friday dates and weekend outings. 

There are occasions when your gang of girls tags along and he foots that bill. To you, he is a cash cow and doesn’t need pity. To be honest, ladies that is what I call exploitation. You are milking the man dry. He then puts up with your constant nagging and whining about very petty and useless issues. He never complains for even a single day.

The day the beast of a man is fed up with you (doesn’t want to get married. Fact is you did that to him), definitely he sends you packing with the clothes, gifts, and everything he bought you as a send-off package. After weeks and maybe months of you trying to win him back to no avail, you turn yourself into gutter press. Playing the angel and ensuring that he is the worst monster to ever appear on the face of the earth. 

You pretend to have selective amnesia where you only remember his weaknesses. The pathetic person he was before you came into his life and how you worked your magic on him to turn him into a prince only for you to realize that he is actually a frog.

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Ladies do we ever stop for a moment to calculate the amount of money the dude has spent on you? Don’t you think that could have been your dowry had you not been in a hurry to move in and start acting like the ‘good wife’?

Remember the value you give yourself is the same value people would give you. The QUESTION is: are you worthy to be a queen to the Prince?

As for moving in that is a story for another day, keep reading.

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