Nobody Owes You Anything

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Every day I feel amazed by the life lessons I learn whether intentionally or through experience. One of the lessons I have found so liberating is knowing that Nobody owes me anything. Sound harsh but it is true. You might find yourself walking tall every day and feeling entitled to some privileges and favors. This is the best root of disappointment and devastation.

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The mentality of entitlement is toxic. This is the mentality that has broken families, relationships, communities, fellowships, and even nations. Yes, we have fundamental human rights and different governments are bound to offer this to their nation. What has entitlement achieved so far? Do we have equal job opportunities, access to education, or even health care? Your guess is as good as mine. 

For us to attain basic rights for all, it will take boldness of doing what it takes to bridge the gap. We have to be fed up with corruption, impunity, status quo, nepotism, and anything else that stands in our way. Then we need accountable leadership and responsible citizenship. Numerous documents and resolutions will keep being developed, we will keep campaigning about entitlement and still, nothing will change. Action toward the desired outcome is all that is needed.

It was not my intention to sound like a lobbyist. My intention is to ignite a personal reflection and self-realization journey. To kill the narrative of, "If only they did this for me or gave me this... then things would be different".  

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Let me even go a notch higher and take away the blame put on parents. They brought you into this world and made sure you survived and that is their bit. It is done. They do not owe you any explanation. If they desire to give you something extra it is their wish. Quit making outrageous demands from your parents and give them a break. They took care of you and did what they could. Appreciate that and your life will be so free. 

Now do not take this as an excuse to be careless and arrogant. My point is there is so much expectation from others while you do so little to match this expectation. You feel so entitled to everything that you expect things to drop from heaven like manna. If anything is going to go your way, it will need your input on whether others support you or not.

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I just love the clarity in the word of God, we give so much pressure on our parents, siblings, and friends. Everything they do is out of good will and not because they are entitled. The only thing they owe you is love, how they show it up to them. 

Romans 13:8 (GNT) Be under obligation to no one—the only obligation you have is to love one another. Whoever does this has obeyed the Law.

Do yourself a favor and set those around you free with the realization that, Nobody owes you anything!