That Moment When You Find out Your Dad is not Your Father Part 2

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All your actions come with consequences and this includes being in love. 

Love is a beautiful thing but when things go south
a relationship quickly turns into a battlefield and a peace troop might be called upon to intervene.

Situation 1

She is 21 and has just discovered that she is 2 months pregnant. Excitedly, she calls her ‘babez’ makes an appointment for a date, and starts preparing herself so that she will look magnificent when breaking the beautiful news to the daddy-to-be. 

After a tasty dinner as they are having dessert she happily says ‘good news babes, we are pregnant!’ Desert chokes him and the spoon falls on the table and suddenly the mood chills. 

‘What! Are you serious! How!’ with eyes popping out she is confused by the reaction because in her wildest dream she had never imagined such, a scenario would happen to her. 

He asks her to give him time to take in the information. She never gets to see him or hear from him until 15 years later.

Situation 2

She is his princess and the perfect partner. Mother to his children in short with her he was at home. They live together and she gets pregnant and gives birth to a beautiful baby.

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One day while he is in the office he is called by the reception to go collect a parcel for him. On getting there he is greeted with the sleeping face of his baby in a basket with a note from the princess saying that she cannot stay with him because she is in love with someone else and he can keep the baby. 

She disappears only to reappear 20 years later when she gets the news that her baby is marrying.

Point to Note

These are the kind of men and women I was talking about in my last article. Most of these out-of-sight parents come into sight and want to pretend that nothing happened. They want to be welcomed with hugs and kisses and congratulated for what they did. 

Before reappearing, do you ask yourself some of these questions?

·          Does the child know about you?

·         What does the child know about you?

·         How did my abandoning affect them?

·         Will the child readily accept your presence in their life?

·         Is this child prepared to nave you as a part of their life?

·         What will be the reaction of the other parent?

·         Are you back to stay in their lives or will you disappear again?

There is nothing wrong with reuniting with a child you once abandoned. However, the reunion should be planned for and carefully executed or else it ends up being a total disaster and your child may end up hating you forever. 

Watch out for the next article with tips on reuniting with an estranged child after years.

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