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However, the story of the Kenyatta University graduate who was murdered by his jilted lover which has been discussed exhaustively on radio, TV and Social Media got me to my breaking point.In my own analysis, here are the reasons why Kenyan Men cannot Take Rejection
1. They view Relationships as an investment
This is where they got it all wrong. Relationships are best on mutual love and agreement. Whatever you do is an act of love or appreciation and not an investment.
2. They have a Super Ego
This is a good quality in men but if exploited it is a toxic quality. Most of our men are not ready to take no for an answer even when a relationship is not working. They do not want to appear as a lesser man in front of their peers. My advice to you is that, work on your relationship and pay attention to your lady and you will be THE MAN!!!
3. They see Women as a Commodity
Hello, we are not in the stone age period my friends. Women are human beings with intellectual capacity and with similar rights to you. Things have changed and its about time you adapt. NOBODY OWNS A WOMAN.
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I am saying this again just to make it clear, women are human beings with intellectual capacity and with similar rights to you. Without that woman, you would have no relationship.
5. They are Generally Insecure
Insecurities simply build broken relationships. Get a grip of yourself and show your lady what you are worth then you will need not to worry about rejection.
There you have it. I am hoping to see some change out there.
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2. How to Have Successful Relationships
This post is feminist...very few facts...
ReplyDeleteIt could be partly. However, these are examples of some on the cases I have come across but it does not mean that all mean react in a similar way
DeleteIt is true that we are all insecure but the minute as a lady I tell you NO and you start throwing insults at me then.....You are in another level of insecurity
ReplyDeleteSometimes insults come as a coping mechanism
ReplyDeleteWe are all insecure and no body wants to be rejected.
ReplyDeleteA wonderful piece.
ReplyDeleteAnother reason would be what the society expects of men. Men are cultured to be on top of things and therefore have no room for 'failure', in this case being rejected. Another thing is that men are not offered the opportunity to be real with their feelings and hence lack the capacity to express what they are really going through, this means they have to vent out in some way and thus the reactions that you have highlighted in the piece.
Thank you for the input. I was being accused of being a feminist.
DeleteAfrican men are taught to be strong and a show of emotion is seen as weakness.
Great insight!!