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This might appear like the
most irrational article I have ever written, but just hear me out for a moment.
The number of ‘Sponsor relationships’ have been on the rise with scandal after
scandal flooding our media. Focus has been put on condemning the vice but who
has tried to analyse the situation and explain the trend?
Women depending on men is
a normal phenomenon and nothing absurd at all. I mean, the man was created first
and the woman was made to be his helper.
It is general knowledge that the man is the head of the family and has the role to provide for and protect his family.
It is general knowledge that the man is the head of the family and has the role to provide for and protect his family.
Ephesians 5:23 (NKJV) For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.
1 Timothy 3:4 (GNT) he must be able to manage his own family well and make his children obey him with all respect.
In short, it is the responsibility of the man to lead both
at home and in relationships. I know we are in the digital age and gender
roles have become vague given that, women are having financial independence and
we now have women-led households. This is, however, not my focus today.
Why is ‘Sponsor Relationships’
Rampant?
This kind of relationship has become fashionable among
girls in their late teens and early 20s especially those in Universities. This
is something that has been going on for years and only seems rampant because deaths
related to these relationships are now in the open. Something which I am grateful
for, so many girls have been murdered and the cases go unreported.
At Decent Conversations, we had a forum to understand
#SponsorManenoz and it came out clearly that girls are engaging in these relationships for different reasons. The bottom line is financial security and a few cases of love but driven by different motives. For some: it is simply to be
part of a social class and attain a flamboyant lifestyle, it is mere peer
pressure or competition with peers some are looking to pay for
their school and support their siblings. The reasons are diverse and they are
all personal choices.
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Why
do Women Deserve Sponsors?
‘Sponsors’ are seen as
men who offer women money in exchange for other favors at times these women are
not their wives. What I have come to learn is ‘Sponsors’ are no longer defined
by age, even men in their late 30s are slowly catching up.
Women are emotional
beings and are to be wooed, cherished, and taken care of. As a man, you need to
spoil your woman and give her everything she needs.
For her to glow and remain
radiant, it requires your investment. For sure, every man’s wallet size differs
but you can always make your woman happy within your means. Surprise her every
once in a while and appreciate her.
The ‘Sponsor
relationships’ are simply a magnification of what women need and the natural
life order. It might have been blown out of proportion but if every man was
simply a ‘reasonable sponsor’ who is loyal to their woman, then the cases we
are hearing would be minimal.
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