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Who and how you turn out
in life is your character influenced by multiple factors. Some of
these factors are; parenting, environment & exposure, life experience,
genetic makeup & cognitive abilities, material possession, religion, media, and socialization.
Despite there being numerous influences on character parenting plays a key role. Parents are the
first contact children have in this world, their nurturing role is directly
linked to character. Whatever you do as a parent, good or bad, influences your
children. This equally extends to your presence, involvement, and absence in
their life.
A study investigating the
connection between parents’ investment and children’s competence suggests that
the emotional involvement of parents really does matter and affects the outcome
of their child’s emotional competence and regulation (Volling, 458).
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Parents are the first
teachers in the school of life. Children's cognitive abilities are developed at home with the games, interactions, and tasks you have with them. Emotional
intelligence is also crucial. Children do not just develop emotions they are
exposed to them through how they react and what they say. Positive affirmation is
also a great way of boosting children’s self-esteem and confidence.
Attachment styles
especially interpersonal skills are greatly influenced by parenting. Strict
parents raise children with great fear/insecure and have difficulty developing lasting relationships. On the other hand, those who let their children be
free develop a sense of security and confidence.
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What
Can you do?
- Teach by example by having a positive character. Children absorb what they see and hear.
- Strive to be better than your own parents by improving on the weaknesses which your parents had.
- Be very observant and keen with your children. In addition, try to identify their innate abilities and nurture them early.
- Have a great sense of self-awareness and deal with burdens from your past to sieve through what you transfer to your children.
- Be careful of how you relate your relationship to your children despite the desire to be strict.
- Be conscious of how you subconsciously relate to children and what you say when driven by emotions.
- Work on your parenting competency. Talk to others and even professionals to learn on what is required of you as a parent. Children do not come with a manual and there is a need to learn on the job to bring up a great generation.
Related Article: 5 Parenting Lessons from Mary and Joseph
This conversation
happened during Decent Conversations Forum on Parenting in the Digital Age led by Isaac Maweu our resident psychologist.
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