Parental Influence on Children Character Formation

Who and how you turn out in life is including your character influenced by multiple factors. Some of these factors are; parenting, environment & exposure, life experience, genetic makeup & cognitive abilities, material possession, religion, media and socialization.

Despite there been numerous influence on character parenting plays a key role. Parents are the first contact children have on this world, their nurturing role is directly linked to character. Whatever you do as a parent, good or bad, influences your children. This equally extends to your presence, involvement and absence in their life.

A study investigating the connection between parent’s investment and children’s competence suggests that the emotional involvement of parents really does matter and affects the outcome of their child’s emotional competence and regulation (Volling, 458).

Parents are the first teachers in the school of life. Children cognitive abilities are developments from home with the games, interaction and tasks you have with them. Emotional intelligence is also crucial. Children do not just develop emotions they are exposed to it through how you react and what you say. Positive affirmation is also a great way of boosting children’s self-esteem and confidence.

Attachment styles especially interpersonal skills are greatly influenced by parenting. Strict parents raise children with great fear/unsecure and have difficultly developing lasting relationships. On the other hand, for those who let their children be free develop a sense of security and confidence.

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What Can you do?
  • Teach by example by having a positive character. Children absorb what they see and hear.
  • Strive to be better than your own parents by improving on the weaknesses which your parents had.
  • Be very observant and keen with your children. In addition, try to identify their innate abilities and nurture them early.
  • Have a great sense of self-awareness and deal with burdens from your past so as to sieve through what you transfer unto your children. 

  • Be carefully of how you relate with your relate to your children despite the desire to be strict.
  • Be conscious of how you subconsciously relate to children and what you say when driven by emotions.
  • Work on your parenting competency. Talk to others and even professionals to learn on what is required of you as a parent. Children do not come with a manual and there is need to learn on the job to bring up a great generation.

This conversation happened during Decent Conversations Forum on Parenting on the Digital Age lead by Isaac Maweu our resident psychologist. 

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